Growing up, I was obsessed with weddings. I would watch movies like Bride Wars on repeat and shows like Say Yes to the Dress and My Fair Wedding with David Tutera. (That man really is a miracle worker.)
I was wrapped in this idea that I was going to have this crazy elaborate wedding, complete with a 5 course dinner, a fancy cake that was taller than me, and a dress from Kleinfield’s that cost enough to feed a small village.
When Pinterest became a thing, I would scroll through endless pages of wedding pictures, pinning ideas to a dream board, planning for something that wasn’t even in the works.
Somewhere along the way though, I came to an important realization.
A wedding is a day, but a marriage lasts forever.
I think a lot of women get caught up in the excitement of rings, dresses, and how perfect their wedding is going to be that they forget what it really should be about: a commitment to spend your life with someone. For better or for worse. Even when things get really hard, or when life doesn’t go like you think it will.
To me, it’s simple. Why spend thousands upon thousands of dollars on one day when you could save that money for an amazing honeymoon or things that are going to help you out in the long-run such as a down payment on your first house together?
Plus, can you imagine how much stress having a small wedding or even eloping will avoid?? Wedding planning sounds exhausting, and I don’t handle stress very well. (Just ask my fiancé.) 😉
I’m not bashing anyone who decides to have an elaborate wedding. Having a small wedding or eloping isn’t for everyone. But for me, the choice is simple.
I don’t want a big, fancy wedding. I want a marriage.
I’m more focused on who I’m going to be sharing my life with, than one day.
Blogmas Question of the Day: Did any of you elope or have a small wedding? If so, what are your thoughts?
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